Post by OOM on Nov 16, 2015 6:49:23 GMT
Sorry I had to send you an open letter like this here, but since you deleted your account here, and then PM'd me on WP and set it where I couldn't answer you, this is my only alternative to say what I have to say to you. So here goes.
The forum has just started. There aer bound to be plenty of ups and downs and mistakes. Whether or not you like the guys I got to do the techy stuff and made mods to handle any flare up when I'm not here isn't a reason to run off in a temper fit over it. You could simply have messaged me and discussed it like a normal person. Telling me that because you're autistic you don't like to be told what to do and are cleaning because there are mods doesn't actually make much sense at all. Most places have mods even if it's just to clean up spam. If you had bothered listening to what I wrote, which was that there will be rules but they will be minimal and common sense, and pretty much things that most people wouldn't violate even if they weren't there, then you might have understood what was going on and chilled out some and not made a federal freaking case out of nothing at all.
Of course I'm going to have mods. Things happen. They won't happen as often as on WP because we won't have all the touchy feely lets not hurt feelings at all ever rules like they do, but it's kind of ironic that you left because your feelings were hurt by the fact that we have rules which didn't effect you at all. So you wanted me to make a rule saying that we can't have rules or mods because it hurts your feelings? That has nothing at all to do with common sense, which is what I'm basing this on.
Now, I haven't been here a good bit. That can happen for me. I have a busy life. I'm married, with a house to run, four grown kids, a grandbaby, a husband, three dogs, and two cats. I have a lot on my plate. I was sick for a bit, then my purepred husky dog had a disk in his back and could only DRAG HIMSELF ACROSS THE FLOOR for days until the vet was open and we got him in there, and got him treated with steroids because thank God it was a disk and nothing else, but I spent quite a bit of time carrying that dog outside and holding him up to pee and poo, and turning him and moving him around and hand fucking feeding him because he was in such pain. On top of that, one of my younger daughters best friends was arrested for capitol murder, and she didn't do it, and three other kids were arrested for it as well, only two of which actually did it. I've been busy helping out the mom of her friend because that poor lady is beside herself. It will get sorted out eventually when the lawyers get involved and all that but at this point in time that poor family is having the worst time they ever had. So between my sinus infection, my dog's back half not working and that sweet little gal being pinched for murder, I've been a bit too busy to even check it out on my phone. Another reason yet to have mods. So they can speak for me and make decisions in my absence or even contact me if need be, as I will give them my phone number and such so they can get me during an emergency.
So, I hope you feel better by getting all that off your chest about how I'm doing everything all wrong, but I certainly disagree with you. It takes time to get things like this up and going, and patience and trial and error. You have to stick it out and work on ways to make things better and suggest things and compromise and do a lot of work to get it how it should be, and even then everybody won't be 100% happy, but the goal is to make it the best it can be for most of the people there.
So, glad you had your say, and since you locked me out of responding to you, this is how I'm doing it. It's really too bad you didn't have enough patience to stick it out and help us build a forum that would make us all comfy and cozy and happy, but I do believe the rest of us will do just fine as we are.
As for everyone else, please feel free to come to me with any concerns and also know that if I'm not here, there is a valid reason. Aunt Blabby can reach me by phone or FB message (phone is better though cause I dont always hear the chime) if I'm needed. I really do need techy mods for the techy stuff cause I suck at that worse than a White House intern in a blue dress, and I need regular mods to handle issues and answer stuff and all that when I'm not here and who can also reach me when Im needed if I'm away.
We are new here and it's not MY FORUM, it's ALL YA'LLS FORUM, so I want everybody to be happy.
And I unbanned BeaArthur. She asked me to.
So please yall, have patience. It's new and it's going to take us a while to get our groove on.
The forum has just started. There aer bound to be plenty of ups and downs and mistakes. Whether or not you like the guys I got to do the techy stuff and made mods to handle any flare up when I'm not here isn't a reason to run off in a temper fit over it. You could simply have messaged me and discussed it like a normal person. Telling me that because you're autistic you don't like to be told what to do and are cleaning because there are mods doesn't actually make much sense at all. Most places have mods even if it's just to clean up spam. If you had bothered listening to what I wrote, which was that there will be rules but they will be minimal and common sense, and pretty much things that most people wouldn't violate even if they weren't there, then you might have understood what was going on and chilled out some and not made a federal freaking case out of nothing at all.
Of course I'm going to have mods. Things happen. They won't happen as often as on WP because we won't have all the touchy feely lets not hurt feelings at all ever rules like they do, but it's kind of ironic that you left because your feelings were hurt by the fact that we have rules which didn't effect you at all. So you wanted me to make a rule saying that we can't have rules or mods because it hurts your feelings? That has nothing at all to do with common sense, which is what I'm basing this on.
Now, I haven't been here a good bit. That can happen for me. I have a busy life. I'm married, with a house to run, four grown kids, a grandbaby, a husband, three dogs, and two cats. I have a lot on my plate. I was sick for a bit, then my purepred husky dog had a disk in his back and could only DRAG HIMSELF ACROSS THE FLOOR for days until the vet was open and we got him in there, and got him treated with steroids because thank God it was a disk and nothing else, but I spent quite a bit of time carrying that dog outside and holding him up to pee and poo, and turning him and moving him around and hand fucking feeding him because he was in such pain. On top of that, one of my younger daughters best friends was arrested for capitol murder, and she didn't do it, and three other kids were arrested for it as well, only two of which actually did it. I've been busy helping out the mom of her friend because that poor lady is beside herself. It will get sorted out eventually when the lawyers get involved and all that but at this point in time that poor family is having the worst time they ever had. So between my sinus infection, my dog's back half not working and that sweet little gal being pinched for murder, I've been a bit too busy to even check it out on my phone. Another reason yet to have mods. So they can speak for me and make decisions in my absence or even contact me if need be, as I will give them my phone number and such so they can get me during an emergency.
So, I hope you feel better by getting all that off your chest about how I'm doing everything all wrong, but I certainly disagree with you. It takes time to get things like this up and going, and patience and trial and error. You have to stick it out and work on ways to make things better and suggest things and compromise and do a lot of work to get it how it should be, and even then everybody won't be 100% happy, but the goal is to make it the best it can be for most of the people there.
So, glad you had your say, and since you locked me out of responding to you, this is how I'm doing it. It's really too bad you didn't have enough patience to stick it out and help us build a forum that would make us all comfy and cozy and happy, but I do believe the rest of us will do just fine as we are.
As for everyone else, please feel free to come to me with any concerns and also know that if I'm not here, there is a valid reason. Aunt Blabby can reach me by phone or FB message (phone is better though cause I dont always hear the chime) if I'm needed. I really do need techy mods for the techy stuff cause I suck at that worse than a White House intern in a blue dress, and I need regular mods to handle issues and answer stuff and all that when I'm not here and who can also reach me when Im needed if I'm away.
We are new here and it's not MY FORUM, it's ALL YA'LLS FORUM, so I want everybody to be happy.
And I unbanned BeaArthur. She asked me to.
So please yall, have patience. It's new and it's going to take us a while to get our groove on.
